'Children Deserve to Know
Where They Come From'
is a campaign led
by Emma, a child behaviour advisor
and family therapist
best known
for her work as
'The Child Listener™'
Discussing and exploring the
issues relating
to children born through:
'Children Deserve to Know Where They Come From'
is our starting point for discussions about donor
conceived children. Are there positive solutions to be
found even where annoymous sperm donations are
still supported in many countries?
- The Child Listener™ - A Voice for Kids
Message to Donor Dads / Message to Parents
of
Donor Conceived Children- or Those Considering
Using a Sperm Donor/ Message to Fertility Authorities /
Donor Dad Questionnaire
Template
'My Donda' - Stories Inspired by Donor Conceived Children- Being Created by the Child Listener™ as
Short Stories- Starting Discussion with Children About Their Conception and Biological Self-Identity
See first story here
Are you a sperm 'Donor Dad' - or want to enter into an arrangement whereby you are involved with the child 
after conception- or even to co-parent? Options for being in contact with the child are not available when you donate through a sperm bank. If however you donate through
Free Sperm Donations Worldwide (FSDW) you can choose who to donate to- and make your own arrangement, that more effectively caters for the needs of the children born as a result ie for information and ideally some connection.
Please also use our new free support network- 'My Donor Dad' - launching shortly- and the home to our new 'Sibbling Donor Registry' - 2012.
This is a secure private area (not spidered by search engines) where FSDW donors and members can keep in touch safely AFTER conception and not worry about potential legal issues- being sued for child support, or for parental responsibility.
You can liase through the free members area using your FSDW unique identifier code, asking and answering relevant questions etc. Trained professionals are on hand to resolve any issues and offer professional support re parenting matter, legal and health issues.
The DC child can also use this to correspond with the donor if and
when ready - even before 18. FSDW donors agree to this and welcome
this contact by the child.
FSDW lawyers are working on the legalities to make sure no court can ever get this information, or force a parent or donor to reveal their true identity- leaving them open to legal action. At present private sperm donation arrangements are NOT generally recognised, and we do not want genuine sperm donors, with honourable intentions, and would-be-parents to stop connecting for fear of these laws. The laws are there to protect the child, however FSDW donors and members have this at the forefront of their minds and why they choose this site- moderated by a professional who is dedicated to children- it is why they choose to join the ONLY 'free, known, AI only (no sex) known sperm donor connections site in the world. There is no hidden agenda that can come ahead of the parents and child's needs- eg payment for the sperm or sex. FSDW is about QUALITY matches and family building- NOT quantity.
FSDW is about helping adults make safe, responsible decisions with the child at the heart of every one of these decisions.
'Pregnancy is only one small part of this journey'
The only money you ever pay is to subscribe to the members area and find your donor. All services after that are FREE.
Message to Parents of Sperm Donor Conceived Children- or to those Considered Using A Sperm Donor
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A Message to Sperm 'Donor Dads':
Most children in our experience will want to know you as a real person- rather than a number on a catalogue- as early as possible. They want to know that you chose their parent/s – and have an interest in what happens post conception- even just to know they are going to be loved and well cared for. They want to know 'real' things about you- and the following list has been created based on what the children I have worked with, would like to know about their donor dad. It doesn't mean they will want to meet you- but they will, more likely than not, want to know of you. This information is invaluable growing up- especially when other children start asking questions. Even taking the time to write it shows the child you cared enough- and will mean the world to them.
I am working with other professionals to create books, pamphlets and workshops to help parents of sperm donor conceived children transition from the early years through to adulthood with a positive self-image linked with knowledge of their biological origins. In part this means knowing of their biological identity. This questionnaire shows them parts of you- and you will be a part of them forever, regardless of whether you are involved post conception or not.
Use these questions as a starting point- answer as simply or fully as you wish- change the questions if you wish- and add more. You can do this without giving information that would lead to you being traced- if this is a concern to you.
Ask yourself- if I didn't know anything about my biological father- what would I have wanted to know.
If possible, please type the answers to the questions- and handwrite the personal message at the end, and end it with your name (in your handwriting).
If you do have a photo – even if it is you as a child- and don't mind adding it- that would be wonderful. Children also love to see pics of your pets etc.
Thank you so much for the gift of life- and for taking the time to help these families and children even after conception. This information is invaluable to so many.
If you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask
Emma:-)
Emma@The-Child-Listener.com
Please email me for the questionnaire in Word format - or copy and paste
A few things you might like to know about me-
your '
Donor Dad' !
Ny first name
My nickname
My hair colour
My eye colour
My height
My skin colour
My ethnic origins
The country in which I spent my childhood
My age group – when you were conceived
My sibblings and family
Physical Features I'm proud of
Physical Features I would change if I could
I have had these operations and illnesses
When I was growing up my favourite hobby was
At school I was best at this subject
and not so good at this
When I was growing up my best friends were called
When I was growing up I wanted to be a
The job I have enjoyed the most, as an adult is
My favourite colour is
My favourite foods are
My favourite movies are
My favourite books are
My favourite animals are
My favourite sports are
My favourite holiday destination is
The things I would like to change about the world are
Things I hope you will have as you grow up
This is why I chose to donate to your parent/s
My personal message to you
Message to Fertility Authorities
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